Spicing Up Your Sex Life:
A Tasteful Guide for Ordinary People
...was probably created with you in mind

I intend it to benefit those who used to have a sex life, those who presently have a sex life, and those who hope to have a sex life in the future. I suppose we could even include those who are curious about sex but haven't yet made up their minds whether or not sex applies to them.

I have written a workbook that is available for you to purchase, and I conduct individual or couples counseling offered either in person or via telephone, by pre-arranged appointment times. I also do public speaking.

There are more details about all this on the other pages of this website, and I invite you to take a look. If you are interested, please feel free to e-mail me.



Now let me share some of the basic concepts
of "Spicing" with you:

Using a metaphor of food and cooking, couples can learn to communicate about sex in ways that are clear, playful, and non-threatening. For example, women usually want appetizers and men often are happy to start with the entree. Within this conceptual framework, there is room to negotiate different tastes and appetites.

The program consists of four parts:


Taking Stock

Where are you now in your sex life?

What constitutes a "good enough" sex life?

With the use of written materials, you can take stock of what is presently in your sexual pantry and consider whether or not you are satisfied with the ingredients.

Sweet and Savory
 

What are some of the basic sexual differences between men and women?
How can these differences be combined to cook up a sex life you would enjoy? Learn how to create complementarity rather than conflict.

Expanding the Menu
Do your sexual options available nourish both partners? Work with the "Sexual Options Menu", which invites you to plan appetizers, soups and salads, entrees and desserts. Variety is the spice of life, but must suit the diners.

Blessing the Meal
 
Are you clear about your moral and/or spiritual orientation regarding sex? Sex occurs dependably and naturally when the participants fundamentally approve of what they are doing, and give sexual behaviors honor and priority in their lives.



If you work and play through the four sections of "Spicing Up Your Sex Life," you are likely to emerge with valuable information about yourself and your partner, a deeper understanding of both your particular situation and the condition of men and women in general, and an improved sex life. Good luck, and enjoy!

Our program includes a book which may be purchased by itself, and counseling for those of you who may be in the Boulder, Colorado area. Counseling is offered both in person and via the telephone.


Please Contact Us and Ask Susan your Favorite Questions, which may be posted in our up and coming Ask Susan page. We are looking for questions that are genuine, potentially relevant to others, and expressed in a respectable way. Thank You!

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